Don't get me wrong. We knew it was a big decision, and we made the decision with full awareness of it's bigness.
But even when you're expecting change, you still need to adjust. Our guest bedroom, for example, will become our new baby's room. Family and houses guests will have to adjust by sleeping on the pullout couch in the den.
One person who has a lot of adjusting to do is our six-year-old daughter. She's a great kid and she's super excited about having a little sister. But it's also clear that she has questions about how things are going to be postpartum.
The other day we were sitting on the couch talking about it.
6yo: Daddy, when the baby comes, will I be able to hold her?The ironic thing about that last statement, and what I didn't have the heart to explain to her, is that it won't be long before our six year old is an 11-year-old and the very thought of spending any time at all with me will be repugnant and embarrassing to her.
me: Yes. In fact, you'll be one of the first people to hold her. First will be your mom.
6yo: Then you. Then me. So I'll be the third person.
me: Yes. But you'll have to be careful when holding the baby.
6yo: I know. Their necks aren't very strong. I'll be able to feed her, right?
me: Yeah. We'll all to work together to take care of her.
6yo: I think it's so cute when the food comes out of their mouth a little bit and you have to scoop it back in with the spoon.
me: Yeah. But remember, it's going to be a few months before she can eat baby food. At first, she'll just drink milk from a bottle. You can hold the bottle, though.
6yo: Oh, yeah.
6yo: Daddy, there's something that I've been thinking about.
me: What is it?
6yo: I'm afraid that when the baby comes, you'll want to play with her more than me. It makes me kind of sad.
me: Well, when the baby comes we'll all have to do a lot at first to make sure she stays safe and healthy. But we'll still make time to play with each other. You're more fun to play with than the baby anyway.
6yo: I am? Why.
me: Well, babies don't really do much. They really only do four things.
6yo: What? Eat?
me: Yep. Eat, sleep, poop and cry. That's about all they do. But they sure are cute.
6yo: Yeah. So we'll still get to do fun things together?
me: Sure. You know, your baby sister will probably like playing with you more than she plays with me.
Just part of the growing up process. Gotta gather those rosebuds while we may.
tagged: family, change, daughter, baby, fatherhood, parenting